Jealousy strikes, irritates, illuminates, reveals the path I wish to travel.
Jealousy. It gets a bad press, but it can be really useful. It can point the way to something we really want.
I don’t often feel jealous, but when I do, it’s usually because someone else is doing something that I want to do. Something I have told myself is impossible, or too hard, or not for the likes of me, for someone older, or younger, more talented, better educated….the list goes on.
This morning, while I was reading an article about a writer and explorer, jealousy bit hard. I read about one of the ideas in his new book, something I remember thinking about years ago. ‘It’s not fair’, I thought. ‘I could have written that’. But I didn’t.
Jealousy showed me that writing about these ideas, and writing a book, is important to me.
Then came the excuses. ‘Oh but he’s probably a much better writer than me. He probably studied literature and writing. He’s probably rich and can afford to be a writer and not need a real job.’
This may, or may not, be true. The point is, he did it. I didn’t. The point is, more clarity on what is important to me, what it is that I want.
Jealousy is not a pleasant feeling, but it gave me a little nudge into action. I could choose to take what I want seriously. I could take some writing courses. I could start redrafting the novel that I wrote a few years ago.
What do you think? Has jealousy ever made you stop and think? Pointed the way to a new direction, adventure or creative project?
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Jealousy from an early age shaped me. I wanted to travel. I wanted to have things that others had. It pushed me to accomplish what I wanted, shaped who I am and gave me empathy for those who also grew up with less. It is not always a bad thing if used in the right way.
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That’s interesting, thanks for sharing! People don’t often talk about the positive side of jealousy, but there definitely is one. I’ll be paying more attention to it in future 😀
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I know this feeling Sarah – sometime if I feel irritated by a writer while I’m reading I have to do a ‘jealousy check’ to see if that’s what I’m really feeling!
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It’s a good feeling to be aware of I think! Especially if we use it to move us into action. Thanks for your comment 😀
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